Why do people forget??

[Ronniecole11]

Why is it that people forget, including myself?

We tend to forget how close we were to certain people, how much friendships meant, how much others helped us in times of need, how grateful we should be for the things and people we have, how far we've come in life, how much we've changed.

Its important to let go of certain things from the past and to recognize change ( and accept it) but to forget is an entirely different story

Its hurtful when people forget about you or the things that you've done for them, its very hurtful.

Its also a disservice to forget how far you've come or how much things have changed in your life.

Thats all I have for now, just remember, just a little bit

[Lisa]

People normally do things without thinking first. While it is hurtful when someone forgets an act of kindness, always remember we should never do things for others with the intention of them returning the same gesture or kindness. No one forgets the act of kindness or gesture that one does for someone, but they do forget to say "thank you" and mean it. Most people are self-centered. But, that is okay also. You just keep trucking along and do what you do and enjoy doing.

I agree with Claire...for some people it is an attempt at misguided self-protection. It is hard for some people to leave themselves wide open for fear of being hurt, used or abused. But, never take it personally, at least try not to.

[Claire]

I understand completely what You're saying Ronnie, but I think for some people it is an attempt at misguided self-protectiion?
For myself I know some colleagues and people who are not so close to me, may think I am distant at times or emotional etc.
Survivors of abuse DO appreciate all the beauty in life and are grateful for life, but remember that for some people it takes double the effort and sometimes involves a great deal of pain and reflection simply to STAY ALIVE to appreciate life.
When we might take it personally try to remember the adage about walking in someone's shoes"
People who we might think are cold, distant, or even rude, may be using such strategies to prevent anyone really getting close to them. I know I sometimes think "at least if I am alone I am "safe" and this is common.
People may not meant to hurt you or to forget things - they may be using misguided coping strategies to deal with the life burden they have chosen - sometimes not realising that this IS a choice.