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Profile Information
- Relationship Status:
- Married
- About Me:
- have my own website, follow Law of Attraction, love to read, love to write, active member of Experience Project
- Season:
- Season 1
- Starting Date:
- July 19, 2008
- Intentions & Goals:
- work toward attaining and maintaining my ideal weight
maintain a positive attitude
see only the good and positive in every situation
abundance in all aspects of my life
work toward becoming a successful author and motivational speaker
be patient & understanding in helping my son get through this difficult time in his life
help my son find a positive, wonderful future to look forward to
- Practices:
- Vision Board, Blogging, Journaling, Gratitude Journal, Reading, Meditation, Affirmations, Creating intentions, Participating in seminars, Brainstorming, Take 100% responsability for my life, More
- Personal Website:
- http://www.freewebs.com/weareonespirit
Day 1, Challenge
I have been following the Law of Attraction for more than a year now. But, as generally happens, I hit a few snags in life & wandered away from what was truly working. My youngest son, who for many years has led a very difficult life, finally found out that he is bipolar, among other things.
Now, I have put forth most of my effort over the past few months to trying to help him focus his entire attention into trying to work with this, get on medication and try to rebuild his life. Along this pathway, I have had to face some of my own demons from the past - my ex husband and his wife, who in all reality are about half of the root of my son's problems. As usual, although he has an income 4 times mine, we can not rely on him to help out.
So, I had to face the same demons that led me down a road of deep depression during my first marriage. I heard the same comments and, once again, it brought up things that had hurt me deeply so many years ago. I had to wrestle with some real deep-seated anger, resentment & finally forgiveness. I can forgive him, yet not condone his actions and attitude.
When I face a problem that I have faced before, I have to stop and realize that there is some valuable lesson in this that I have not learned yet. So, I ask to learn that lesson, change my reaction to this problem, so that I can move on in life. In this problem, my lesson was a very heavy one, indeed, it was one of forgiveness.
I spent several weeks looking at the topic of forgiveness and trying to apply it to this situation. It was difficult to forgive someone who may very well never change and who's actions so negatively affect my son. But, I had to do this. I could no longer have this hold me back from living a positive life!
So, now I am ready once again to get my mind back to more positive issues. I can not change anyone but myself, so I just have to go forward being thankful for the wonderful things in my life - and for all of those things that are surely coming my way!
I know that they will!
Now, I have put forth most of my effort over the past few months to trying to help him focus his entire attention into trying to work with this, get on medication and try to rebuild his life. Along this pathway, I have had to face some of my own demons from the past - my ex husband and his wife, who in all reality are about half of the root of my son's problems. As usual, although he has an income 4 times mine, we can not rely on him to help out.
So, I had to face the same demons that led me down a road of deep depression during my first marriage. I heard the same comments and, once again, it brought up things that had hurt me deeply so many years ago. I had to wrestle with some real deep-seated anger, resentment & finally forgiveness. I can forgive him, yet not condone his actions and attitude.
When I face a problem that I have faced before, I have to stop and realize that there is some valuable lesson in this that I have not learned yet. So, I ask to learn that lesson, change my reaction to this problem, so that I can move on in life. In this problem, my lesson was a very heavy one, indeed, it was one of forgiveness.
I spent several weeks looking at the topic of forgiveness and trying to apply it to this situation. It was difficult to forgive someone who may very well never change and who's actions so negatively affect my son. But, I had to do this. I could no longer have this hold me back from living a positive life!
So, now I am ready once again to get my mind back to more positive issues. I can not change anyone but myself, so I just have to go forward being thankful for the wonderful things in my life - and for all of those things that are surely coming my way!
I know that they will!
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Today was a day of dealing with often angry and frustrated people. But when one of them had me on speaker phone, asked me a question & before I could answer, told me to "shut up", I about lost it. Enough was enough. . .
I was only trying to do my job - not something I was trying to do out of meanness or because I wanted to cause a problem - I was simply performing the job for which I am being paid.
So, I managed to keep my cool. Only when I got off the phone, I told a co-worker what had been said to me. She said she had the almost same exchange with the same person that day & we needed to talk to our department head about it. I then discovered another co-worker had a run-in with the very same person only one day earlier.
So, her boss was called by our department head - and told that this sort of behavior was not going to be tolerated. Only now - I got a voice mail from the lady - telling me - now get this -- that she is "sorry" that I "misunderstood" what she said. That she did not appreciate that I talked to her boss (which I didn't do) and that she thought we were better friends than that, but evidently not. . . .
So, things just went from bad to worse. . .only I know that whatever is bothering this woman is not caused by me. She is angry about something else - I was just the convenient person to take it out on.
I am trying to look for the silver lining here. . . .
I have been very busy with work, helping my youngest son move & spending a weekend in the mountains with my oldest son & his family.
Getting my youngest son moved into subsidized housing has been a huge accomplishment. Now he is no longer worried about being homeless. . .as he has been constantly for the past 4 years. Also things are beginning to get better in his life. His meds seems to be helping him to even out the wild mood swings. . .so that is a wonderful thing. Also, he has a girlfriend - now going on three months, I think. All of this has made his outlook on life much brighter.
Spending last weekend in the mountains with my oldest son and his family was very relaxing and a lot of fun. Our cabin was quite literally on a river that is heavily rafted & kayaked. So we could sit on the deck with a morning cup of coffee and wave to people floating by!
Also got lots of hugs and kisses from the grandkids. I just love spending time with them!
Work is a bit stressful right now - with budget deadlines and cuts. . .people are a bit on edge. But, hopefully in a few weeks, we will be bringing the budget to a close and doing all the behind the scene work to spread the budget, load it into the various systems, put together reports, etc. Then we can do the year end close, audit schedules, etc.
It is a very busy time - days fly by and the phone is constantly ringing. Some days I come home, eat supper, take a bath and just fall asleep!
Today was a very busy Monday. Since budget is ongoing, there were lots of emails and phone calls asking questions. It made getting much work done a bit difficult because of the constant interruptions. But, the day certainly passed by quickly.
I got a sweet email in mid day from my granddaughter. That always lifts my spirits high - as she is a true positive soul. It is such a pleasure to hear from her at work! She is a truly wonderful young lady! Of course, her brother is wonderful, too! I know I have the best grandkids ever!!
Pretty soon they will be back in school. They are growing up so quickly!
It is so good to hear you are having some manifestions.
Keep doing your best!
Blessings!
In one week my husband & I will be in Knoxville helping my son move into his studio apartment. He name finally moved up on the list of subsidized housing - so finally he will have a place to feel more secure & not live almost daily with the fear of being evicted.
In the past few months he has accomplished a lot: finally got qualified for TennCare, was finally diagnosed and is receiving proper medication to help with his illness, got qualified for food stamps & now has a place to live. So, even though he has many more things to do, he has come a long way.
It is also a relief to me, as prior to this time, I have been trying to keep up two households - my own in SC and pay his bills in Tennessee. It has been a struggle, but somehow, the money to do it has always been there. I have had the belief that it would be always there for me to be able to do the things that I am meant to do.
Now, instead of covering the basic bills for him, I can concentrate on trying to help him to get together furniture and basic things to furnish his place. He has practically nothing. The past ten years he has struggled in jobs that did not even cover the basic bills. He has always lived one step away from being homeless.
He could not manage to keep jobs due mostly to his illness - being bipolar is very difficult, particularly, when you do not know what is going on & are not on medication. Now he realizes that he will have to retrain and find an entirely different line of work - as the sort of things he did before were not only low paying but high stress. That is not a good mix with his condition.
This will also be a chance for him to get some training in a totally different area. Hopefully, he will be able to find something that he loves to do and he will be able to help other people.
The other day, on my way to work, my car engine just cut off. I was left about 3/4 of the way there, on the side of the road. Instead of getting angry or upset, I decided that I would not let this make me have a bad day or a bad attitude. I decided it was going to be something that was not major.
I made a few calls & waited for my husband to come take me to work & the tow truck to come take my car to the shop. I took the time to clean out my car. Then I saw that I had brought along a small book that my granddaughter had given me this summer on vacation. In it she had written things she liked and appreciated about me. What a wonderful way to spend that time!
I couldn't help but be in a mood of gratitude all day - grateful that I had such a wonderful granddaughter, that my husband was so quick to come to my aid, that I had wonderful friends at work who had volunteered to come and get me, grateful for the fact that I had that short time that morning to spend contemplating on all the wonderful things in my life, thankful that my son has a new place to move to to begin this new phase in his life.
As it turned out, the car problem was only the alternator. So, it was not a huge expense. Also on that day I got paid & received back pay for a merit raise I had received. The amount of back pay & raise for the current pay period was quite miraculously almost the same amount of the bill for my car! How wonderful!
Amazing what positive thinking can do! It has brought about some wonderful things in my life this week!
Today, I have prayed and asked for my next lesson in life. I know in dealing with my father's Alzheimer's disease and my son's battle with bipolar disorder - that there must be some valuable life lesson that God has for me to learn. It is not easy to work with people when you know that their own brain is not allowing messages to get through in the way that they do for most people. So, often times, these people, never meaning to, hurt those that they love with unkind or hurtful words. It is not their intention - it is the illness and the frustration of dealing with that.
But today, on a different board, I received a message from a dear soul that I thought was one of great wisdom . Here is what she said:
"Unfortunately we have the capacity to use the power of language to wound each other deeply. I am sorry that this happened to you. I find its most painful when such words come from those we deeply love.
I'm discovering that we also have the capacity to use our power of understanding to deflect some of that pain--sounds like you are doing this too.
Its true, as you have noted, that we need to monitor the balance between our energy outflow and our nourishment inflow. I'm glad you are tending to your own needs.
The thing I'm trying to learn now, is how to face such painful moments without needing to make anyone involved seem to be right or wrong. When I'm able to do this, I find that the personal gets taken out of the situation. Then the 'ingredients' of the uncomfortable exchange tend to dissipate more readily.
When I can glimpse the other persons perspective (for just a fleeting moment--even if I don't agree with it) this also helps to realize that its often more about them, than about me. It helps me not to take their outburst to heart when I feel that they are 'dumping' on me. That doesn't prevent the initial pain, but it helps me get over it more quickly.
I find I'm less and less interested, I become in holding on to the hurts that I experience, and this means I don't send that negative energy back to the person. It stops the cycle from going on & on. I feel much gratitude for discovering these things.
I wish we could wave a magic wand and take away all the misunderstandings and imbalances that cause so much pain. I guess the next best thing is to simply care as much as we can. Continue to seek the silver lining in each cloud. "
I am going to try my best to adapt this wisdom in my own life.
Today, I decided to live through the day by finding good in everything. I spent a great deal of time observing and in solitude as I drove to work. It certainly changed my entire line of vision for the entire day!
So, as the day progressed, it would have been easy to get angry at so many phone calls, interruptions, questions and problems. Instead, I chose to look at each one as an opportunity - to see the good in each and every person with whom I crossed paths.
It was a wonderful day - instead of being stressful (which is the norm at this time of year), it was a happy and a true day of beauty and insight!
It was a very nice day. My husband & I went to a restaurant out in the country called "Grits & Groceries". The food is marvelous! My brother came by for a short visit. It was a very nice day.
Here is an email I got today called "word for the day". I thought it was really good:
Can you see the holiness in those things you take for granted – a paved road or a washing machine? If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.
Rabbi Harold Kushner
Friday, Jul. 25
Shower Thy grace upon us in the moment of our greatest need, protect us from ourselves, and allow us to be a beacon of light rather than a dark cloud for the ambience that surrounds us. Only with Thy aid can we create that peace within and harmony with the outer environment, both natural and social, for which our souls yearn.
Seyyed Hossein Nasr
from Talking to God: Portrait of a World at Prayer (anthology)
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