Fine Tuning The Secret

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Comment by Jilly on September 15, 2009 at 12:25pm

HI Angelica, Good to see you. You are doing well with your english. I wish I could speak another language. You are blessed.
I cant change anyone else was a pill I had to swallow. I am learning and I am more AWARE of when I try. I stop and re-evaluate what I am thinking and what my actions are.
You maybe right about the tornado...there may be a calmness that we can glean from...like the stillness that comes after a tornado.
Glad to see you...JILLY

Comment by Angelica on September 15, 2009 at 12:01pm

Hey! Thank you for the welcome back Kay! Yes! I was on holidays and i was disappear for a while! I am getting update still! Lol! I love to read you all! but I need time! My english is not so fast!! :P...it would be better if everybody write in spanish! deal? :). My cello is good...not so played lately!
Kay and Jilly, thanks for the comments about my grattitude story..it's all my pleasure share it with you!! Actually, in my notebook, I gave thanks for you and this community! :)
It's all interesting about the kay's storie and what Jilly commented! In abraham books, they say you can't change anyone...all the change you can do is about your own life, sometimes maybe it's hard to accept that, but if you are well with yourself, you are well with everything and everybody!

If the tonado comes, maybe we could see the good things of the tornado and maybe it would not be such a tornado and let things flow

Big hugs!

Comment by Jilly on September 15, 2009 at 2:03am

WOW Kahea, I am learning something NEW here. I was absolutely CLUELESS. They all look like Mattel Dolls you would buy in the store. Amazing. It is like they are Playing Dress up, something I did as a child. I remember those platform shoes years ago, and Steve Maden brought them back huh! I also love the Pippy Long Stocking. Thanks for the pictures Kahea...I have learned something new today.
I am enlightened...JILLY

Comment by Kahea on September 14, 2009 at 11:13pm

This is Lolita! I really REALLY like this one!

Comment by Kahea on September 14, 2009 at 11:07pm

This is soooooo cool Jilly haha I love Japanese culture, this is all the rage in Japan :P








They're kind of rebelling against society and they dress with like california really tan makeup and panda eyes. They wear really bright colors and cute clothes! I love it haha i think their style is really cool in Japan.

Comment by Jilly on September 14, 2009 at 10:30pm

Hello all, I must be FINE TUNING THE SECRET...I attracted a group to help me lose the weight I need to lose to become wonderfully fit. They are so supportive. I am so excited to be a part of this new group. If it were not for this group, I might not have found that group. The universe has delivered in a perfect and efficient way.
I have continue to update my blog on the 21 day habit change. I am ending my 10th day. I am so amazed already at the results.
Marcella: How are you doing with your 21 days?
Kahea: You and I are total Social Butterflies. OK I will bite...What is a Ganguro?
Hitting the sack soon, Love and Peace...JILLY

Comment by Jilly on September 14, 2009 at 2:34pm

Dear Kahea, You are so grounded and I know you will look to the universe for the correct choices. Keep doing what you are doing. Sometimes we have to wait on the universe for the perfect...we just have to make sure we dont interupt the flow so the wrong things doesnt make there way back to you like they went thru the U.S. Postal system with out a Fragile sign on them.
FOR ME: I want to make sure that what ever is being delivered is in tack and is what I really ordered. Im getting better at this. Practice makes perfect huh.
Went on a shopping spree with hubby this morning and the hours drive was wonderful. Our conversation was as smooth as silk. Im lovin it.
We both also found some great bargins so that was also a plus.
I am so THANKFUL AND FULL OF GRADITUDE....
Oh, thought I would just share that I joined a new group. Its Megans "100 day fitness challenge". They will be starting a new session the begining of Oct in case you all might be interested. It will be for 10 weeks totalling 70 days. I am going to drop some pounds during this challenge and get fit at the same time. I am looking forward to this. More later...JILLY

Comment by Kahea on September 14, 2009 at 2:01am

Well I know that's the truth and that is why I am intending on making some girlfriends that live near me soon. I want to wait though and make sure that we are going to be in Des Moines for a while, cause I am a social butterfly. I was just thinking today how I would love to put on some Ganguro makeup, but who could I do that with? I don't have any girlfriends here and hahaha Matt sure isn't going to go out with me dressed like that :P We are in the midst of getting our schedules on the same wavelength that way we can spend time together doing what we love together and I can still do my classes and he can do his WOW and we can both be happy and still get together and do our quality time. haha he actually talked to me about doing a double date...we'll see if that happens :P But I don't mind it so much cause even if we were doing stuff together it wouldn't be the stuff that I can do with my girlfriends. I am really looking foreward to the day when I will be ready to make some new friends. :)

Comment by Jilly on September 13, 2009 at 5:07pm

Good morning all, Today is a work day for me as I cant stand sitting around as my husband yells at the Football team on TV. I work on the computer so this is a refreshing break to come to this site and address something I have been thinking about that I recently read about. I found this information very valuable.
A while back we talked about VALUES and how they play a hugh role in relating to others around us. First we need to realize what our VALUES are and how we rank them in our lives. High values and Low Values and all the in between. First to find out what you highest value is. You discover what that is, then you can evaluate how often you partake or participate doing that which you VALUE MOST.
Then once you have self-evaluated this, you can see how others effect your HIGH VALUE. Yes, Others around you can make you feel that your High Value is worthless and in turn make you feel resentful toward them and cause you to have low self-esteem.
I will share my findings regarding SELF.
I love to Garage SALE
I love to GO to the Dog Park with Heidi my dog.
I love to GO to Taco Tuesday (note this one is without hubby as he dislikes mexican food).
I love going out to Breakfast/Lunch and Dinner...and expecially with other couples.
The list of activities go's on and I wont bore you with all of them.
Bottom LINE...All the activities that I VALUE the most involve SOCIALIZING.
There seems to be an on going theme with my likes and dislikes.
Ok, so now here is where it really gets interesting.
I self-evaluated who in my life interferes with my Highest Value. Bingo...its my husband. I am married to a man who will on occasion socialize but let me tell you, this is not on the top of his list. Its at the bottom.
Consequently I was feeling resentful that we didnt socialize more often..it was buming me out frankly. I didnt realize how important this was to me until I did this exercise.
So now...you ask..how does one fix the problem and co-habitate and get along and have a marrage that lasted as long as mine did. Marries 25 going on 26 this year.
The first step is to discover in your mate or whom ever is close to you, that might interfer with your highest value, what their VALUES are. Rate them high and low and in between. Evaluate if any of his or hers are on your list and do those together. Heck FOOTBALL is on the bottom of my list and its on the tippy top of his. So when I disappear when hes enjoying this High VALUE of his, I go and do what he likes least...I go and Socialize. There is something to be learned in all this. You can not change anyone elses Value system. And no one can change yours. ...Oh Thank GOD for that. Now how do you discover the TRUE High value in yourself. Well, its not the common denominator. Its all about ORDER/ORGANIZED/ORDERLY EVENTS. What are you most organized about. What is the ordered part of your life.
In my case...
I love to do all these Social centered activities.
I schedule them.
I am on time to all of them,never am I late.
I plan them and organize them.
I look forward to them with excitement.
I even love to dress up for them. I car pool for them. I can go on and on.
Bottom line here I love to have people around me.
So the big clue here for me was ...if I wanted to get along better with my mate or even my friends I need to do my thing when it doesnt interfere with their thing and visa versa and the same with my friends who I cherrish dearly as well. And the lesson I learned that was important for me to move on was to...NOT get pushed out of shape when Hubby didnt want to socialize...an not try to push the social scene on him, just as I wouldnt want him to push that FOOTBALL thing on me. And, really make sure that you dont make them feel guilty or inadiquate, in not having your High value as their own.
Oh another thing I have learned also that I would like to pass along to others looking to find a mate...share your highest values and be truthful, dont lie about it only to seem line you have alot in common. Trust me...later the truth will be told.
Ok, I have to go back to work now. Hugs JILLY
I think I might post this as a blog on my page.

Comment by Kahea on September 12, 2009 at 5:33pm

Well I have to agree with you about the tourneado haha is that how you spell it? :P But as you will see in my e-mail, It's heavier than just some roses hahaha So group we are taking this one Private :)

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