HOW SHOULD SINGLE CHRISTIAN MEN / WOMEN DATE??? ... OR SHOULD THEY DATE?

[Livinmybestlife]

Hi Friends! So glad you are apart of this communuty. Being a single Christian women I'm faced with this question a lot. should we date / should we not date. I believe that we can date but we must set some standards and guide lines when it comes to dating or courtship. First of all let's make sure that the other person is a Christian. The bible tells us to not yoke ourselves together with unbelievers. Never date/courtship until you are ready for marriage. You don't wanna have tewnty men or women whom you have dated. In doing this you create "Soul ties" with these people and they become hard to break. Write down your stardards for your husband or wife. Pray and ask HolySpirit for guidness. Make your standards high because you belong to the King! Be accountable as well to other people. Let people who you trust know who your signifiacant other is. There is saftey in a multitude of Godly counsel. Don't hide the relationship. Make sure that we have self control over our flesh. Never and I repeat never marry someone because you are burning(ready to have sex) If you can't control yourself while you are single you want be able to control yoursel when you become married. So many of marriages in up in divorce court because of this untamed body member "LUST". And marriage want tame it. (I have even asked God to give me a husband that doesn't have a wondering eye) Please make sure that if you are a WOMEN that you will be dating a MAN and if you are a MAN make sure that you are dating a WOMEN. That may seem crazy to say but we live in a world where people are calling right wrong and wrong right and they are claiming the name of Jesus.. but as we all know God word will never change. Theses are just a few suggestions for Christians who are entering the dating or courtship journey. So I believe we can date successfully and still have integrity and lift up holy hands. Looking for your comments and responses. Be blessed!

[Rozie]

Great Topic choice. If you are just dating and not ready for marriage, then everything you said is correct. But! If you are dating and are ready for marriage. I think you should not date. Instead you should be preparing to meet your mate.

By preparing i believe you need to get your house in order. Forgive all past relationships, and forgive yourself for allowing yourself to go through what you went through with those relationships.

I also think this is time to get your finances in order. If you have credit card debt this is time to pay it off. You do not want to enter a marriage with debt.

If you have children, this is the time to prepare them for you dating and marrying a man who is not their father. Getting there input really helps. I know someone who did this. She got her children's input on the guy. Likes and dislikes. She married him and they all get along really well.

The list goes on, but I strongly think this is the time for you to prepare for your mate.

[Livinmybestlife]

thanks for your comments Rozie. I have a question for you. What if the child/ren don't like the chioce that the parent has made. How do you handle that? Be Blessed!

[Rozie]

I apologize for the delay in responds.

Hmm! Depending on the reason the child/ren do not like the person. If its a strong feeling of dislike because they can't see mom/dad without each other, then a serious conversation needs to take place.

But!

If the dislike is of intuitive feeling from the child/ren. This needs to be addressed through prayer. Many times God will give us signs through others and we do not accept the responds because we feel that they are against us, when most of the time they are trying to look out for our best interest.

Lastly,

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all of his "righteousness' be added on to you. (Right things be added on to you, that means "RIGHT MAN TOO!" LOL!

On serious note: I believe when we seek God for answers we get them.