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So Here's the Highway to Manifesting a Healthy Relationship
It seems that when it comes to applying the Attractions Law, one of the hardest, long-lasting challenges it manifesting our soulmates, ideal boyfriend or girlfriend, whichever term you wish to use. Okay, so we've been there, done that, this that the other thing and have had negative experiences with hurtful people we've dated and been with. I will admit, I've had mine. I've fallen in love with women who... were already involved with another guy, had something in them that wasn't right, had something missing, or just didn't like me back. That happens to EVERYONE! And at the end of the day, the God-honest, uncontradicting truth is... there's always someone perfect for someone, and 99% of the time, the people we fall in love with aren't right for us.
I mean- why try to impress that girl at college or school when she doesn't even like you back in the first place, when there is a better person out there. There are people that we like and don't like us back, so move on. There are even people that like us but WE don't like THEM back, so THEY will have to move on.
If you're brand new to this and want to start (and this is for anybody by the way) here's what I'd like you to do.
Do this if you haven't done so already. Take a pen and piece of paper, right? At the top of the paper, write in big letter at the top "MY PERFECT GIRLFRIEND". Ladies, you can obviously replace the "girlfriend" with the word "boyfriend". The list can also be done on Microsoft Word if you wish. Then under that, I now want you to write out ALLLLLL the qualities you would want in your ideal partner, as if a genie wanted you to make a wish as you asked for a mate and he asked you what kind of partner you want. LIST EVERYTHING! BE SPECIFIC! Go ahead! Be picky! AND be honest with yourself! If you want a woman with big breasts, please! Put that!
Just go crazy with this as if you had a magic wand and had no constraints with this whatsoever. Your list can be longer than the Sears Tower for all it matters. Let me say this, however, we all want a person who's sexy and looks good, nice hair, this that the other, and trust me! That is perfectly fine! BUT! Don't just focus on a person's looks. At the same time we can come across a person who looks good, they can also treat us like dirt, so with that I beg you to please focus on their type of behavior as well, how they treat you, how nice they are to you, etc. etc. Also, one word of waning. Don't worry about the Zodiac sign or Animal sign. You can say you two are perfectly compatible but don't just assume "Oh I'm a Virgo so the best match for me is a Cappricorn!" Because at the same time Virgos are most compatible for Cappricorns, you just never know if you'd get along with a Cancer or Taurus but I will cover that later.
So when you have your finished list... that's longer than the Sears Tower lol... What I want you to do now is grab a picture of someone who looks fairly close to your ideal partner. This is the optional part but I would HIGHLY recommend this. It can be of your ex or someone you've crushed on or it could be of someone you think is hot. Then attach the picture below the list or anywhere else. If for some reason you can't find a picture, DRAW a picture. Again, you don't nessasarily have to do this but it's highly recommended that you do.
Now we're going to visualize being with this person. Imagine them, what they'd look like, going to the movies, being with them, having a sweet conversations with them, whatever it is, visualize it. Add passion and power, do whatever it takes to get your emotions at the same vibe with what you want. Now after that, let it go, and let the Universe do the rest. By the way, this technique works for almost anything and no, not just to manifest a partner, to manifest ANYTHING, a home, a job, more money, anything else we want.
As it sounds rather odd that this is all coming from an 18-year-old, single male, proud virgin, and seeker of mine (mate), I know how it's done! I'm one step closer to mastering Attraction's Law! Also, ask any person who manifested their mate via the Attraction's Law. They will tell you the EXACT same thing I'm telling you here. Well, not word-for-word lol but it is the same thing and will have you thinking "Oh yeah! Amir posted that on his blog."
Anyway, as we just established, we are letting the Universe/God do the work but we're not done just yet! AND THIS... is where people tend to have the most trouble AND THIS I want desperate people to read especially. YOU need to work on YOU! Yes, I know. You're probably tired of this advice as I too became sick of this advice, and I've ranted about how bad I wanted a mate and posted in other forums how I felt but I've got replies telling me the same I'm about to tell you now, but look. How bad do you want this person? Think about it. Really. If you don't love and value yourself, then how could anybody else?
So those of you suffering difficulty trying to manifesting your ideal partner, I want you read this portion of this blog very carefully. Ask yourself these questions.
1. Does my personality match that of who I want to attract?
--> Since we're talking attracting a human being via the Attraction's Law, which says like attracts like, our actions somehow have to match the kind of person we want. We can't be always angry, pissy, and hurtful and seek out loving, kind, and generous. It doesn't work like that. If you want pretty nice and kind, we have to BE pretty nice and kind.
2. Am I aligned with what I want?
--> You must not be if you're dwelling upon your mate's absence instead of their presence. Remember, what you think and feel about, you bring about.
3. Foremost of all, Do I love and value myself?
--> Like I said, If YOU don't love yourself then why should anyone else? Remember, like attracts like. When a person doesn't like themself, their feelings about themselves are being sent out to the Universe and then what it does is it sends that person other people that don't like them. See what I'm getting at?
Another thing, DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT settle for less than, please. Don't be so desperate, you'll take just anybody just because. Just look at the poor realtionship and the divorce rates. That's because the innocent person fails to value themselves so they settle for less. Don't. That's my lecture for now.
Affirmations to practice-
I am enjoying a healthy, long lasting relationship with my ideal partner and she/he fits everything on my "Perfect Girlfriend/Boyfriend" list!
Knowing that I will meet my ideal partner very soon, I am now detatching myself from this vision.
I am passionately sitting in a car, holding hands with my very attractive Girlfriend/Boyfriend!
Feel free to reply with any affirmations you'd like to add or find inspring. Hoped this post helped!
It seems that when it comes to applying the Attractions Law, one of the hardest, long-lasting challenges it manifesting our soulmates, ideal boyfriend or girlfriend, whichever term you wish to use. Okay, so we've been there, done that, this that the other thing and have had negative experiences with hurtful people we've dated and been with. I will admit, I've had mine. I've fallen in love with women who... were already involved with another guy, had something in them that wasn't right, had something missing, or just didn't like me back. That happens to EVERYONE! And at the end of the day, the God-honest, uncontradicting truth is... there's always someone perfect for someone, and 99% of the time, the people we fall in love with aren't right for us.
I mean- why try to impress that girl at college or school when she doesn't even like you back in the first place, when there is a better person out there. There are people that we like and don't like us back, so move on. There are even people that like us but WE don't like THEM back, so THEY will have to move on.
If you're brand new to this and want to start (and this is for anybody by the way) here's what I'd like you to do.
Do this if you haven't done so already. Take a pen and piece of paper, right? At the top of the paper, write in big letter at the top "MY PERFECT GIRLFRIEND". Ladies, you can obviously replace the "girlfriend" with the word "boyfriend". The list can also be done on Microsoft Word if you wish. Then under that, I now want you to write out ALLLLLL the qualities you would want in your ideal partner, as if a genie wanted you to make a wish as you asked for a mate and he asked you what kind of partner you want. LIST EVERYTHING! BE SPECIFIC! Go ahead! Be picky! AND be honest with yourself! If you want a woman with big breasts, please! Put that!
Just go crazy with this as if you had a magic wand and had no constraints with this whatsoever. Your list can be longer than the Sears Tower for all it matters. Let me say this, however, we all want a person who's sexy and looks good, nice hair, this that the other, and trust me! That is perfectly fine! BUT! Don't just focus on a person's looks. At the same time we can come across a person who looks good, they can also treat us like dirt, so with that I beg you to please focus on their type of behavior as well, how they treat you, how nice they are to you, etc. etc. Also, one word of waning. Don't worry about the Zodiac sign or Animal sign. You can say you two are perfectly compatible but don't just assume "Oh I'm a Virgo so the best match for me is a Cappricorn!" Because at the same time Virgos are most compatible for Cappricorns, you just never know if you'd get along with a Cancer or Taurus but I will cover that later.
So when you have your finished list... that's longer than the Sears Tower lol... What I want you to do now is grab a picture of someone who looks fairly close to your ideal partner. This is the optional part but I would HIGHLY recommend this. It can be of your ex or someone you've crushed on or it could be of someone you think is hot. Then attach the picture below the list or anywhere else. If for some reason you can't find a picture, DRAW a picture. Again, you don't nessasarily have to do this but it's highly recommended that you do.
Now we're going to visualize being with this person. Imagine them, what they'd look like, going to the movies, being with them, having a sweet conversations with them, whatever it is, visualize it. Add passion and power, do whatever it takes to get your emotions at the same vibe with what you want. Now after that, let it go, and let the Universe do the rest. By the way, this technique works for almost anything and no, not just to manifest a partner, to manifest ANYTHING, a home, a job, more money, anything else we want.
As it sounds rather odd that this is all coming from an 18-year-old, single male, proud virgin, and seeker of mine (mate), I know how it's done! I'm one step closer to mastering Attraction's Law! Also, ask any person who manifested their mate via the Attraction's Law. They will tell you the EXACT same thing I'm telling you here. Well, not word-for-word lol but it is the same thing and will have you thinking "Oh yeah! Amir posted that on his blog."
Anyway, as we just established, we are letting the Universe/God do the work but we're not done just yet! AND THIS... is where people tend to have the most trouble AND THIS I want desperate people to read especially. YOU need to work on YOU! Yes, I know. You're probably tired of this advice as I too became sick of this advice, and I've ranted about how bad I wanted a mate and posted in other forums how I felt but I've got replies telling me the same I'm about to tell you now, but look. How bad do you want this person? Think about it. Really. If you don't love and value yourself, then how could anybody else?
So those of you suffering difficulty trying to manifesting your ideal partner, I want you read this portion of this blog very carefully. Ask yourself these questions.
1. Does my personality match that of who I want to attract?
--> Since we're talking attracting a human being via the Attraction's Law, which says like attracts like, our actions somehow have to match the kind of person we want. We can't be always angry, pissy, and hurtful and seek out loving, kind, and generous. It doesn't work like that. If you want pretty nice and kind, we have to BE pretty nice and kind.
2. Am I aligned with what I want?
--> You must not be if you're dwelling upon your mate's absence instead of their presence. Remember, what you think and feel about, you bring about.
3. Foremost of all, Do I love and value myself?
--> Like I said, If YOU don't love yourself then why should anyone else? Remember, like attracts like. When a person doesn't like themself, their feelings about themselves are being sent out to the Universe and then what it does is it sends that person other people that don't like them. See what I'm getting at?
Another thing, DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT settle for less than, please. Don't be so desperate, you'll take just anybody just because. Just look at the poor realtionship and the divorce rates. That's because the innocent person fails to value themselves so they settle for less. Don't. That's my lecture for now.
Affirmations to practice-
I am enjoying a healthy, long lasting relationship with my ideal partner and she/he fits everything on my "Perfect Girlfriend/Boyfriend" list!
Knowing that I will meet my ideal partner very soon, I am now detatching myself from this vision.
I am passionately sitting in a car, holding hands with my very attractive Girlfriend/Boyfriend!
Feel free to reply with any affirmations you'd like to add or find inspring. Hoped this post helped!
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Permalink Reply by Irradiance on
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Thank you for this as it was a reminder for me, but what happens when you feel you have found that person and then things are on pause or you are not sure what is going on? I met my ideal woman about two months ago, everything was going well and then last week she just decided she wanted me to leave her space and has said noting since. No we did not have an argument and all week long until that day things had been great!
I really in my heart and spirit feel she is the one...so what do I do?
I had already written down and put it out there, even prayed about ours being a long lasting, healthy, positive etc. etc. union. This happened a few days ago and it has been a challenge to keep up a positive vibration because I keep crying. So a friend who believes in the Law Of Attraction told me to write my story about me loving me and also gave me some words she used to get someone back who had left her life. I put it out there, at night before I go to bed I look at pictures of us, visualize our happy times and thank the Universe for her calling and coming back into my life.
What else can I do? I am a Buddhist and very spiritual so I chant everyday as part of my Buddhist practice. I still seem to have some very emotional moments. How can I get past this?
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Permalink Reply by Amir on -
Irradiance, I'm sorry that that had to happen to you. Did she match everything on you "ideal girlfriend" list? More importantly, does your characteristics match that of your partner? If not it would be sort of hard to keep your partner. Just put the request out there, love yourself first, and know the right kind of person will show up in your life.
This article is so long i didn't think ANYONE would reply!
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Permalink Reply by Shayla on -
This is all true, especially the work on you part. I love and value myself alot and wouldn't dare settle for anything less, I have two children to think about. I admit I don't think about being with this guy that I am attracting but I did write my list out several times..its funny that my ex fits almost everything on the list but you can't make someone be with you..so I let him go. A guy asked for my number the other day and a couple of guys on an online site has reached out to me so I know I'm moving in the right direction. I may be blocking who can come to me because I am quite content with being single but I know at some point I would love to share my life with someone that I'm in love with.
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Permalink Reply by Amir on
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I sort of need to work on being content with being single myself too I guess. Well, I know my perfect girlfriend will come this fall but the other area I need to work on is loving myself. Not saying that I don't, just that I need to find the areas I value in myself. Secondly Shayla, you're right about the fact that you can't make someone be with you who doesn't. The right kind of person will ALWAYS wanna be with you.
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Thank you Amir for your warm words and response. Sorry it took me so long to respond, but I have basically been working on me and bettering my life as well as going after my goals. To answer your question yes she fit all the things on my list and some I did not expect. As for my characteristics well I would say yes. Since I wrote the previous reply things have been getting better and better. She has had some contact with me, said she needs space and time. So I continue chanting, thinking positive, working on me in all ways and focus on my goals. If anyone asks how I am? I tell them what a friend of mine told me....I am awesome! I am in love! I have a growing business and everything is working out!
I feel much better, do not get as emotional as I use to or at least not everyday. I still visualize and tell the story the way I desire with us together and joyous. Thanks again for your kindness. Be well.
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Permalink Reply by Resham on
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Hi Irradiance,
I'm so sorry to hear that you're crying and feeling upset about your situation. I too recently have been through your experience. I had met "the one", i thought we were gonna up together forever, but sadly he didn't turn out to be the person I expected. Not to say this will happen to you - I honestly hope it doesn't. Perhaps she needs some space of her to make space for a person like you? In the Secret it says to attract your soulmate, you also need to physically make space in your surroundings. Try that out. If however, she decides to end it, then give yourself time to grieve and trust that the universe will give you what you want in time.
Amir, your post is absolutely great - and no it wasn't too long. remember you're a special person so keep reminding yourself everyday. At times it can be hard to accept your singledom ( i too am having slight trouble) but ask yourself if there is anything in this given time you would like to achieve before your soul mate arrives? Remember once she arrives, you'll be dedicating loads of time to her :0)
blessings xx
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Permalink Reply by Amir on
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Hey Resham, sorry it took a day to respond.
For me, I need to work on valueing myself, for there always seem to be something I don't like about myself. I just write out a list of the things I do like about myself though. I don't know if it's anything I want to do before she comes! I do start the 100-day chalenge tomorrorw though!
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Greetings Resham,
Thank you very much for sharing and for your heartfelt response. If you read what I replied to Amir above then you will see what has transpired since I wrote my initial reply/question. I must say that the Universe is wonderful and has been protecting and taking care of me. I am so blessed to have a great support system of family who are my friends and fellow Buddhist members. My relatives (as I call them) are who they are, but I am thankful for them also because they show me how I do not want to be and help me to strive to be a better person.
I am working on myself everyday and truly manifesting my greatness! Be well.
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Hi Amir, no problems, sorry its taken me time to reply as well. its good you're affirming to yourself what you're worth - its sooo important. remember, no one else can fill the void (if there is any) inside of you. There is this wondefrful love meditation I found on this website www.fragrantheart.com - its titled the gratitude of love or something like that. It worked wonders for me! Hope this helps you xx
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Permalink Reply by Jilly on -
Dear Amir, I have been married for 26 years. I read half way thru your blog and stopped. I hit the part where you said "if she has big breast" go ahead and write that. I laughed my head off. Be careful what you bargin for. If its large breast you want, then you are also bargining for a wife or mate with back problems. That is what my husband bargined for, back rubs anytime of the day or night. Most husbands would not put up with all this pain, but mine is an angel. You also said that you would be compatible with Capricorns. I'm a Capricorn, and remember me saying I stopped reading your blog. I dont put an ounce of stock in that whole horoscope thing. My hubby is Cancer so you might say we are a freak of Horoscope nature. My point is, be real careful in what you ask for, you will get it. Sometime things are not as complicated as you might think. Sometimes you need to just ask the Universe to deliver a perfect mate for you. The Universe will deliver in its most perfect perfection. You will be please with what the universe delivers. Blessing JILLy
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Permalink Reply by Amir on
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I'm not exactly sure if I'm faithful enough to ask for that when I already conducted my list, but then again like you said it will be pleasing to me, after all. I just want a woman matching the things on my list. I've asked several times when I was never able to manifest my dream woman, and now I would be asking one last final time and this time, for someone perfect in the most perfect perfection to my liking.
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