Observations

[Aleksandra]

Hello co-creators! It is me again! ;) Ok...........let me start a new discussion here, I think a lot of you will find it interesting, intriguing and thought-provoking! Please share your opinions and suggestions here!
In the past I was in a relationship with a guy, we had been together for 3 years, we began to quarrel a lot, the relationship became boring and such a routine.....I had nothing I could talk with him about, everything was so obvious to me........every day was almost the same, I was focused on myself, on my depression, and on how boring my boyfriend was, one day he tald me that I am so boring that there is nothing to talk with me about, I can only talk about a sack of potatoes...........well............this stuck in my memory, I do not wanna make a victim of myself, not, that is not the point, and I do not want you to write how wonderful I am, and how stupid my ex-boyfriend was, no that is not the point............the point is that I think he was a little bit right............my problem is, that when I am with somebody, a friend or a boyfriend, for a long time, it is hard for me to hold interesting conversations, I do not have any interesting remarks, any interesting observations..........Last friday I went to a house party, I visited Monica........I listened to her, I looked at her, she had so many interesting remarks, opinions, comments, her mouth was not closing for a minute.............but everything she said was INTERESTING! She is happily married, she is content, smiling, she is in love with her husband and her husband is in love with her, it shows!

So my question is what makes a person interesting? Really interesting? How can I be more interesting? Is it through observation? Wat are your opinions? Suggestions? ( They say all bored people are boring) I invite EVERYBODY to a discussion!

[tat]

What I think makes a person interesting is the types of interests they have, that they're doing things in life that bring them joy. What are the things that really make you happy? When you know, try to incorporate them more into your life, because when people are passionate about certain things I think it makes them more lively & interesting somehow. Also, when you have been with someone for a while, yes things can sometimes get "stagnant" if you don't work hard at the relationship. I just want to mention that my little nephews are always complaining about being bored, and I tell them it's because they're boring people!! Kids should not need constant stimulation or need to be entertained 24/7. I'm not saying you're boring or anything like that though...:) Also I think people that are curious about other people and ask lots of questions are always interesting, knowledge is also interesting.

Well, those are just my observations from lil ol me! ;)

[amelie]

hi aleksandra!
when i read your post it seems to me like the real issue is not that you aren't interesting, but rather that your boyfriend's words are still echoing in your head. but don't worry, the echo will fade out! i have experienced the same feeling that you're talking about, but as i see it it's all about your self esteem. i am so much more confident today and love my self much more than i did at that time and nowadays i never worry about not being interesting enough. i'm also more relaxed among people. i don't feel that i have to "perform" socially anymore, that i have to have the most exciting conversations with every person i meet. with some people the weather remains the head topic and with others it gets more intellectual or entertaining. after all, isn't it more a matter of personal chemistry than about being interesting or not?

i'm sorry if i read between the lines and interpret it wrong but from this post i get the feeling that your self esteem is a bit low at the moment. i think you deep down inside know yourself that you're actually a very interesting person, aleksandra. and this will become clear for you and shine through when you're on top again. :)

i also fully agree with everything that tat said. passionate people are interesting! i always get fascinated by people with a passion for something. and it doesn't have to be something that i am interested in myself. i had a relationship with a girl who loved horses and horse riding, certainly much more than she loved me haha! and i didn't know anything about horses but she had that fire about it and i loved it! plus it made her happy. and happy people are always interesting.