lack of confidence.............yes...........again

[Aleksandra]

Hello o-creators!

This is me again;) I seem to be very active and productive today;)
My problem is my lack of self-confidence with men..........yes. Not at home, not with friends, not at work in front of a crowd, but with men, in the street! What I have never been able to do is to walk in the street with my head up, facing other people.........the worst thing is when I see a handsome guy in the distance who is approaching me, I look down on the pavement, although I like him ( the guy, not the pavement) I am not even able to look at him, at his face and smile! I think I misse many oportunities because of my shyness.........in public places, too..........I just think I am not attractive enough.........I know it sounds strange, but I have this problem, my friends are surprised, they all smile to handsome passers-by, but me- pavement, always the pavement!
Do you have similar experience? Can you share? Is there any exercise I can do? I need help, or I will never meet my MR Right! He is not the pavement, for sure;)

[Sese O]

I don't have the solution, but i'm waiting for the answers. I swear I was going to type a question very similar to this and then POW! Here it is.

[Dolores Dagenais]

I've had this problem in the past, I use to be a much 'bigger' girl than i am now and it always made me very very self-doubting especially with the opposite sex. The only thing that use to help me was the 'fake it, 'til you make it' idea....I use to pretend I was a beautiful model on a fashion show catwalk...it put me in the mindset to keep my head up and look people in the eye.

[Jason]

Most of the girlfriends i've ever had I met through someone else and it took some time before I got with them. The other girlfriends picked me up and made the first move! i too am waiting for the answers. It's not the opposite sex I'm shy with, it's people in general I'm shy with. at least when I have a reason to talk to someone, like to a cashier or something. I'm fine. It's just going up to a complete stranger and talking to them.

As for you, Aleksandra. You have no reason to be shy. At least appearance wise.

[Ashwin]

Dear Madam ,

This is Ashwin ( Psychology Trainer ) from www.WinTraining.in ( India ) . You have build up low esteem mind set from the childhood days.

This has become disempowering belief within yourself . I can do online Success Coaching . Pl do visit my web site www.WinTraining.in & email me : [e-mail] or call me [phone]

You are manifesting what is happening in your mind

Thanks you

[David]

There are two things that have helped me to approach others, one is to smile, the second is to stay in the moment.

A smile can open many doors and makes you accessable or approachable. Suggest going for a walk and using imagry that makes you smile. Do not pay attention to those around you, just focus on happy thoughts and smile, pick up the energy from the positive thoughts.

The second, stay in the moment, its hard, but staying in the moment keeps you focused on your intent, e.g., meeting others. Do not think ahead of possible outcomes that could occur, just stay in the moment and breathe.
Once you practiced both, combine the two, smile and stay in the moment. Enjoy it, appreciate it, for great things will occur...
Peace and love,
David

[Nadia]

This is helpful for me.
thanks David

[Jilly]

Well, Im just wondering if you want to know what I think... I do have a question first though. What is causing you to be lacking? Is it FEAR? IF its FEAR, you need to ask yourself what you are afraid of? FEAR is one of those nasties that separates us from the Universe/GOD. Start there Alek. Ask yourself what is the cause for the lacking? I would be interested to know and many here can help if they knew. You are so beautiful and you have a fabulous smile. Hugs JILLY

[Prince David]

Wow... I know exactly what you are going through, I used to have the same problem for many years in my life. The way it worked for me, is I raised my head and realized that all these people are around are equal to me. You are not inferior to anyone, you are a powerful amazing wonderful human being! That is what you need to remember. Just keep your head up as much as you can, and keep yourself relaxed.

[Tan Wee Hung]

Hahas. Just my two cents' worth. one of my friends got this pet phrase. Don't Shy, Just Do What You Enjoy Because You are not going to have another go at life!! anyway...
Hi people! I am new to cocreatingreality! I'm a psychology major student and I'm really interested in areas to improve life in general especially the psyche. I read about this theory that thinking about happy things make us happier and ACTING on it surely is REWARDING. I create a video for this on YouTube : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OdXRl56JfTY please do view it, try it and tell me whether what i said is true or over-generalizing. I would REALLY appreciate your comments.

Cheers!

[alison]

Just checked out your video..LOVED IT!!! Yip, it does make you think...im off to think about what makes me happy, it really is the little things I think.. I'm looking at my dog sleeping..he looks so cute, that makes me happy. Think I will put one of these videao together too, thanks for the inspiration, blessings to you.

[Kem Kem]

You are a very beautiful girl and have no reason to feel shy. Face your fear and smile back. Be bold and smile. Tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful. Walk around with this thought in your head. Believe without doubting. The next time you walk down the street and a man smiles at you, smile back as if to say thank you for noticing my beauty. Better yet if he is beautiful too then admire his beauty too. I can tell you for free that the pavement is not beautiful so stop admiring it ..LOL

[HappierThanGod]

I have a friend who is shy who took improv classes. If you want to have fun, maybe you can try this. Who knows you can be an actress! My friend became a model and an actor!

I remember a British tv comedy I have seen about a guy who was so scared of interviews. What he did was imagine everyone was naked. (Not that there is something wrong with being naked). But in that show, it was suggested to him such that he felt more confident to look at people in the eye since they were naked and should be ashamed. The comedy ended with the guy being embarrassed himself as he saw in a mirror at the back of a panel of interviewers that he too was naked. The panelist were also a bunch of shy folks who used the same method.