If you want to attract your true soulmate..read this

[Jenna Costo]

I just want to share this very powerful message about how easy it is to attract that perfect perfect guy/gal of your dreams. So I have this habit like all of you to take in as much wisdom as I can about stuff related to self growth. And over the past few months I have become so much more happy, more content, more energetic, more wise, everything is changing for the better. And yesterday I was thinking a little about the soulmate aspect. I'm currently single and in the process of manifesting my perfect soulmate. I strongly feel that we should use our discretion about what we should do and what we shouldn't. There is literally a huge huge amount of information out there, even free information about manifesting and everything else. But should we take someone's word just like that? I certainly think not. Not everything is 100% correct I feel. SO we ponder and use our discretion.
SO a month back or so, I finished reading this book called the Soulmate secret by Arielle Ford. She has some good ideas, but there is 1 thing that I definitely dont agree with after today. May be she is a bit conservative relatively, but she suggests WAITING for the one, and basically she mentions how she turned down an offer to have sex from some guy, just because she was sure her future partner (her true soulmate) wouldn't have approved of it. SO I dont believe in waiting . I did wait before but I think that is foolish. If you are a healthy individual, why turn down an opportunity to enjoy 1 day of your precious life? I'm not talking about just having sex, this applies to all forms. WHy not go out on a date, even if thats not your perfect partner, as long as you find some form of fun in it. Abraham Hicks says that when you scrutinize, you attract other people who also scrutinize. So its better to be open and enjoy and feel the good feelings and soon that perfect guy will appear before you know it. Well, you don't have to give a commitment to go out a few times. And the other thing is that every guy you date gives you a better sense of what you want in your partner. My last one wasnt the one, but he at least showed me that it is possible for me to find someone who cares for me and is affectionate & who can salsa dance. Now that is something hugely important to me, but all this time before him I thought i can never find someone like that. So may be thats the role he played in my life. So thats my tip that I wanted to share. For the past 6 or 8 months I didnt date ..so I'm going to start.LOL I was actually scrutinizing all this time & now I am going to be more open & enjoy what the men have to offer ...LOL.. Hope you understand my point of view...Life is here to enjoy...marriage and that ring on the finger isnt everything...Hope this helped.. and keep me posted about your successes regarding this..

[createfate]

I agree with you Jenna.... I havent read Arielle's book...its hard to believe she says "wait" Does she mean for a more serious relationship or just "wait" until its the one and dont date in the meantime? All of my relationships that havent been the appropriate one for the longterm have taught me valuable information about myself. Also I dont think its healthy to just sit in the house and not enjoy having fun in the "now" It is a fine line though, because you dont want to spend too much time (I have been guilty of this ) with someone and then when a more appropriate guy comes along your occupied... Its tricky... By far the hardest manifestation for me...

[Tiffany Ananda]

Hey Jenna,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I often talk to my current boyfriend about being with my soulmate and what I learned from jerry and esther is that we must focus solely on what we want- our thoughts are magnets- so as we focus - the thoughts attract. Instead of assessing everything I didn't want in my current relationship- I started to appreciate our good times, our companionship, our positivity- while I imagine the alignmnet and harmony of my soulmate. The picture above is one I use to visualize what I want- I desire for my self and my mate's self to be in alignment- hope this helps you- thanks for the discussion- one love!

[Junepixy]

Oh my gosh. I've been struggling with obsession and attraction for so long! I met my soul mate last year, and we've been talking here and there but since he lives in Poland and I live in the US, we aren't expecting to see each other again without a major miracle. But we do keep in touch, and I must say it gets sooo hard sometimes! That was what brought me to discover the law of attraction in the first place.

What's interesting is, I hadn't heard anything from him in almost 2 weeks... and just after I read this post, I began to contemplate what you were saying and imagine ways I could start to detach myself, and like magic, 2 letters from him just magically appeared in my inbox. Yay!

My heart is racing! It's hard to type!!! ;) Good luck girls, your man is out there, and all of us will reap the benefits of a lasting, grounded, connected soulmate relationship, in the perfect place, at the perfect time! I think that until then, if you can't share your heart's true love with him, love yourself and treat yourself like the fairy princess you are :) Focus on giving your higher self the love and pampering that you'd want from him. That way when you do find him, he'll have no chance of resisting when you cast your confidence and charms in his direction!!!

Blessings on your journey, deep peace, radiating love and warmth <3

[tat]

I also agree with Createfate, in that every relationship I think teaches you things about yourself and what you need in a partner. I always knew that my Mr. Right was out there for me, but did I sit by and wait for him? No I kept myself busy by dating lots of guys, having fun, going on trips and enjoying myself. If I felt like having a casual relationship I did, and didn't obsess about it. Just do what feels right for you, not what some book tells you to do. A fun thing to do to "summon" your soulmate into your life, is make up one of those lists and write down all the qualities that you'd like your ideal partner to have. Just do it for fun and know that you'll meet him. Seal the letter and don't look at it again. I did this and met my Mr. Right I think about 1-2 yrs later? Well I forget the exact time, but anyway yours is out there, just enjoy yourself in the meantime. :)y

[Amir]

I HAVE read Arielle's book. It was amazing. I've done all the steps and cleared my heart. In TSS, she mentioned something about if you don't want to go somewhere, go anyway. Well, let me tell you all something and tell me what you think about this. my school is scheduled to go on a bowling trip this Monday. I have decided, the day they were planning the trip, I wasn't going. I didn't wish to go bowling. It is on a Monday, days I don't like. Maybe God was testing me?

Here's the main thing, the teacher at my school who scheduled the trip called my home, asking my mother if I was going. My mother asked me if I wanted to go and I said no (ol! I just rapped!) anyway, I said I didn't want to go, then my mother gave me reasons why I should, including things such as "it's a sport," "it's fun" "you might meet somebody!", etc. The "you might meet somebody" was a head lifter for me. Then when she asked me one last time, I said no again. But right then and there, a feeling came to me. It was a positive feeling, one that forced me to go in a positive way of intuitivity. Then I told my mother than since I had the money, I guess that I would be going after all. But right the, at the very, last second, I told her i was going after all. So i got her permission and i paid the money to go and I'll be there on Monday! And if i don't meet my soulmate there, I'll just know she's getting closer. Plus, I've read stories of people who met their soulmates going to places that they didn't want to but urged to do so anyway! Sorry if it sounds like i'm hijacking the thread.

So what do you all think?

[Cynthia]

I've read Arielle's book too, and it's great :)
Here's what I think about this waiting stuff: like attracts like. I don't believe in having sex without having a soul connection first, so I'm waiting, and my soulmate whom I haven't met yet feels the same way and he too was never into casual sex or shallow relationships. Arielle felt the same way, I guess. But if you don't mind casual sex then you'll likely attract a soulmate who doesn't mind that. If you like dating you'll end up with a soulmate who doesn't mind that you had lots of dates while you were single. You're attracting what is perfect for you :)

[Jenna Costo]

Hey Cynthia, Thanks for replying ! You are right in saying we attract a partner who is like us. I for one, didnt date at all this year..its sounds funny I know...But all this time I wanted to meet that perfect guy. Last month or so I did write a full description of exactly who I want. But Im still in the process of manifesting that perfect soulmate relationship. But going back to the original context, I think what I did wrong was waiting and not even going out to hang out with some guy, let alone the sex part. And I read in another book, that when you do that, then one fine day you would get so desparate, that you will feel that hey i want to have sex tonight.. Its sort of that the body is hungry..and then you end up catching hold of someone and sleeping with him when he is so beneath your standard so to say. Rather lets say someone who you would have never slept with in your right mind, and later you feel bad. So moral is rather than this happening.. if you keep sorting them, and keep some males in your life, for friendship or hanging out or sex whatever, then you're not desparate and you never feel desparate, you're just too busy having fun- whatever having fun is to you. SO now im beginning to open up.. and I see somehow miraculously 3 different guys are sort of after me and I met them all this week. But none of them are the description i wrote out- for one they are not local but hey may be i can make them move closer to me. But anyway.. I think Im going to spend some time with them , just to pass time and have some fun...Its a process I think and so I'll keep you guys posted...LOL

[Jenna Costo]

So I wanted to add something here. Few days back I received yet another idea from you tube about how to attract the soulmate. I think this is probably the most important thing. and i was missing it all this time for sure. But not anymore. And i want to share it so you can all apply this. well 2 things.
1. So i wrote my description of the perfect soulmate. I mean I wrote EVERYTHING. Just to give you an idea he is a multimillionaire, handsome, polite, chivalrous, and everything from my point of view. So the HOMEWORK for me is to become the vibrational equivalent of this. This means becoming the person that this picture perfect guy would want & also the exact thing that we wrote in the description. Like attracts like. Now I am not a multimillionaire yet, but in the process of becoming one. So Im working towards transforming to becoming all the things I have on my list. also i need to become the best me in everything. When you are living your best life, thats when you attract your A+ partner (not the B or C partner).means doing the best in terms of keeping the house clean, doing the best work you can do, being the wisest you can be, making the best and wisest decisions, etc etc.
2. I realised that I need someone who will have the same or similar purpose in life. I meditated on this and frankly today was a powerful day for me. I have been salsa dancing for the past 5 years and I absolutely love it and love being the center of attention. Today I set the intention that I would perform in front of lots of big crowds- that would give my soul the applause and admiration that I love and crave for. So this is a HUGE passion. So my big passion in life in to perform dance- salsa dance, tango or other forms as well.. and i want a partner who will be passionate about this. and indulge in this with me. I cant explain it but I know how my body reacts to music. If i could I would love to dance every night. And then I thought that the day I die, if i look back and think that i never experienced the exhilaration of performing in front of huge crowds i will be disapponted. Anyway I can put it in the positive. I absolutely want to dance in my life. I should have felt this urge before and recognised it, but better late than never.And its all because of the law of attraction. Today is my day 82 season 1 btw. So i want a partner who will share my enthusiasm about this. And then also about my other passions like dogs and healing the world and spreading the LOA wisdom and eradicating poverty and enhancing knowledge..etc etc. And if u see other examples of couples who last, you would find that both the man and woman are devoted to the same soul purpose- look at brad and angelina- it was angelina's calling to adopt the babies and heal people but i think brad joined in and supports. I dont know much about them but i think thats a good example. So these are my 2 cents on 2 more things you can do to draw that perfect guy /girl you deserve. I am so inspired today although it was a challenging day. I think this is possible for all of us. Anyway sorry if my story was too long...hope it helps you all..

[Mammi-Ama Ofori]

What a GREAT article (and great responses as well)! I just wanted to say "ditto" to it all and that I agree with you. I won't bore you with repeats of what everyone wrote :) I think its so important to focus on ourselves and learn what we like and don't like about ourselves. The love that we have and give ourselves will attract our beloved soulmate right to us if that is our intention. They universe will take care of it and I know it will happen for me at the right place and time. He will be the mirror of how I feel and think about myself. I'm grateful that I love myself and treat myself with respect... therefore I know that my soulmate will have those qualities as well.. I feel its also important to take action when you get an intuitive message. Like Amir who wrote a comment below... he didn't want to go to the bowling trip at first but later had a change of heart. He listened to his intuition. He just may meet his soulmate there and if not he will definitely have an experience that will set him in the right direction.
Thanks so much for posting this! Love, blessings and soulmates to us all :)

Mammi-Ama

[Jenna Costo]

Hi guys... I wanted to write something else here....I'm just so enthusiastic for this goal... & i truly want all you guys to meet and marry your soulmate, if that's what you want.
So yesterday I had a first date...and although it didn't go very well..it taught me many things. I want to share a few. I knew even before I went that this guy was not the ideal match because he did not have at least 1 thing I had on my list. So I knew, yet I wanted to go for the experience. But on the other hand, he had a lot of other things that I had on my list. Let me put it pointwise.
1. I feel its good to exchange energies by interacting to someone who is close to your match in some ways- talking and learning more about him gives you a better sense of what your true match is like. There would be a lot of overlap. I personally love interacting with people and learn about different perspectives so its cool. So by interacting with this type, you get closer to your goal.
2. Dating a few men of this kind gives me an opportunity to practise -so to speak before the real deal. I mean to say that at least in my case, my ideal match is definitely rare and I dont want to mess up by any mistake. I dont mess up anyway- but its good to practise to be perfect. For example, I was a little late yesterday and I want to be very punctual . Practise makes you perfect. Im just talking about practising behaving like you should ideally.
3. It gave me a better idea of what I want. This guy didnt like wine...That was very odd.. I love drinking red wine - so I have to remember that my perfect partner loves red wine.. That way I update my list.
4. I also note what I loved and what I disliked.
ANyway I know this sounds like strange advice- but I have decided to practise dating just to get to the point of perfect behaviour on my part. Of course I'll be judging my date but I at least want to put forward my best foot when the time comes.