Being "ready" for my ideal girlfriend.

[Amir]

Most people would find it a coincidence that I writen a blog with tips on how to get ready for that perfect someone to come into your life. However, I'm not just asking for advice. I'm requesting insight. Since find that perfect someone starts with us, I was wondering which areas I need to work on.

Taking a good look at my "Perfect Girlfriend" list, I see I have listed;

My Perfect Girlfriend... (the title of my Word Document)

- financially stable. Am I fanancially stable? Let's see. I'm not the richest person in the world (not in this poor economy), I don't have a job but my uncle loans me some money every month so I can have lunch money for school! I'm thankful for that! I would budget myself to make sure I don't spend too much or overspend so "Yes" is the answer to that question.
- pet-free. I don't have any pets either.
- Stays clear of smoking or drugs. Do I smoke or do drugs? NO!
- sexual adventuress. Am I sexually active? I'm a virgin, so yes! I'm just being honest.
- is very thankful for all the chores I do around the house for her. Am I thankful for what my mom does for me? Now that, I need to work on. Not to imply that I'm not, because in fact, I am, but my mom and I don't get along and I'm always holding things against her because of a situation here and there.
- does not want to have children. Do I want kids? No.
- is proud of her body-type and loves herself. Do I love myself? Answering honestly, I wouldn't say "yes" or "no" but I am getting there. When I look in the mirror, I do like what I see. I like my smile, my facial features, I kinda almost get excited with seeing myself too. There's always something that I just don't like about myself, be it, my length, or something else but I can't change who I am. What I do do though is point out things that I like about me, and value those things. THAT'S what I need help on.
- is affectionate, very sweet, generous, understanding, and considerate to me! I'm affectionate to close female friends. Offering a hug here and there, and I find myself to be a sweet loving person. As for the last three. I would think of a time when I was generous to another person. I loaned a dollar to a friend who needed to buy lunch but didn't have the money to. He said he would pay it back to me. Then after that, I would occiasionally remind him that "Look man, I still need that dollar." Can you really blame me in the kind of economy we reside in right now? But I always think to myself, "If i was really being generous, I wouldn't've asked for it back." I did really need it back though because at the end of that month, I was broke, needing money.
As far as being understanding goes, I wonder? Am I understanding? When someone does something to me that I don't like, I would get mad! But I also try to say to myself, "Hey look, he has a habit of doing this that and the other and can't help it!" Now being considerate... *takes a breather*
As much as I would like for this girl to pick me up from school everyday and for her to take me to her house over the weekends, I would consider the fact that she is using up her gas in her van for me. So I should be a good boyfriend and offer to pay her gas if we stop near a gas station and I have the money. Or, I could buy her a snack here and there, since she would for me.

I don't think I'm really loving myself the way I should be. I take care of my personal hygene, and I do factor in the good things about myself, not much so on my "flaws" but when buying lunch, I do buy a pretzel but I find myself buying a soda or bag of chips. The lunches always serve fast food! I tell myself if I loved myself I would eat right, or do this that or the other. Well in fact i do love me, and I know I buy something not so healthy, but I made intentions to stay away from sugar. If you would ever catch me at Dukin Donuts, 9 times out of 10, I'm buying a bagel, not a doughnut or at least bagel WITH a doughnut.

I finally learned the importance of self-love ANYWAY, but especially if you want someone else to love you. Because forreal forreal, if you don't give a s**t (pardon my language) about yourself then why should anybody else? I've been trying for a year to manifest my perfect woman but was NEVER able to. I mean, I would try all the feelings, affirmations, law of attraction tips, visualizations. I did so many other principals but I failed to realize I was missing something. I didn't value Amir. But now I finally learned to, and now that I did, I will finally meet my woman on the week of October 4.

I will be using this affirmation;

"I will meet my ideal woman before October 10, and she fits everything on my "Perfect Girlfriend" list!"

I THINK I'm on the right track with things NOW. If this affirmation doesn't work or if I don't get to meet her before the 10th then there is something that I'm doing wrong and need to work on and place another deadline.

[Jilly]

Amir, You need to go back and read what you wrote about yourself. RE: loan from your uncle, is that lunch money a loan or did he just give you the money not expecting to ever get it back, or better, do you plan on paying your uncle back. RE: pet free, you dont have a pet, but you never said if you would like one or if you like animals? Do you? RE: Your MOM, It doesnt sound like you respect her. You live under her roof and she waits on you by doing stuff for you, but you dont get along. How about if you turn that around. Start doing for her and dont expect to be paid back. To give is to let go and really give and the Universe will return it to you in abundance. If you expect a payback...you can just sit there in your loneliness and WAIT. RE: Loaning your friend a dollar. You call that generous? Thats not generous. If you gave him the dollar, NOW that would be GENEROUS. You kept asking for that dollar back and didnt get it. Well Sweetie, how about you...How about you paying back your uncle all that lunch money you said he loaned you that you were so grateful for. How about all that your mother does for you. How do you pay her back. These are two GENEROUS PEOPLE in your LIFE. Can you compare yourself with your MOM and Uncle when loaning a dollar to a friend in need. How about you take a good look at yourself hun! You said you looked in the mirror and liked what you saw. Take another look ! You also said you would by her a snack because she would do the same for me...lol...another payback. You dont give unless you will be paid back somehow in return. That is not giving. So when you ask for a perfect gal for you, guess what the Universe is going to give you..You are going to get it alright. You are going to get a gal that only wants stuff in return. She will be a non-giver, just like yourself. You reap what you sow my friend. Only saying it like it is. You wrote your story, not me. JILLY

[Amir]

No. I won't get any girl at all. I listed "generous", and you're right. Giving something and asking for it to be paid back is not generous. So if I want generous, I have to be generous. The Universe knows I'm working on these things and need to, so I trust that it will give me opportunities to do acts of generosity and whatever else I need to work on.

I've taken the simplicity out of attracting a partner, really. That's why I couldn't manifest her.

I said to the Universe this; If I mastered all I need to work on to make myself ready for a partner, I will see her by the end of the second October week. If I don't see her then, then than means there was something that I missed and still need to work on and thus, will shoot for the end of October.

Also, I read what you siad about someone who is right for you. The thing of it is, I listed big bottom, big breasts, curvy, etc because of an obvious reason. Perhaps, I should be considerate enough to list, "big breasts but not big enough to give her back pains" to compromise it. And I'm not just paying her back Jilly because she would do these things for me. I would be because I love her and I've been on this over-a-year journey to bring her into my reality.

[Angelica]

I'm happy you will meet her!
I'm sure it's very soon! :)

[Amir]

I always got advice on how to manifest my ideal woman and have been always searching all over the web for articles on how to meet my ideal girlfriend but with different steps and to be the type of woman you want to attract into your life. I've never understood that. I took the simplicity out of meeting an ideal partner, and just couldn't.
I finally learned that I need to take a good look at myself and find my true traits that I really value, and so I conducted many drafts of many lists of what I want my ideal woman to be like. I writen many fictional stories of me spending time with her, visualization stories as I call it, and still wasn't able to manifest her into my life.

So I finally learned to ignore all my flaws that have nothing to do with me getting with her, and valued all that i value and appriciate in me. When I look into the mirror i like what I see! And I match, personality wise, what's on my list.

After a whole year and longer, I'm finally going to meet her this month! I affirmed that I will be seeing her sometime next week and if I don't then I'm not ready and will see her before the end of the month if I'm ready for her. Come the end of summer, I made the affirmation that "I will meet my ideal woman this fall and she fits everyhing on my "Perfect Girlfriend" list!"

I mean, I am going to get advice telling me to let go but I can't just assume the negative like, "Since I won't let it go, it isn't going to manifest." Because, I spoke to a person who would manifest things he couldn't let go of.

I just can't stop thinking about her. Maybe I'm making one of these mistakes? http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Harnessing_the_Law_of_Attraction...

[Angelica]

If you feel you will meet here, you will. I was going to say to you what you wrote about Let it go, maybe when you are too attached to it, you don't let it flow it and realize it. Another thing, I have only made a goal with a time end but I was SO sure I was going to get it and a got it!..Now I don't know if i will set a time again for my goals because in some way it put some pressure on it. But if you want it that way, don't ever think you will not going to meet her: "I affirmed that I will be seeing her sometime next week and if I don't then I'm not ready"... I think there's some doubt and more of being prepared or ready and knowing the steps (that surely it helps the thing is to feel it! to feel that it is already yours, that you will meet here soon...that you feel that.

Now, my question is: Are you gong to meet here next week? Do you feel it?.. I know you do ;) and I'm happy for you!

That' my humble opinion :)

Much love Amir!

[Amir]

I also think it has something to do with my self-values not being up to par. But now... they are. Here I am wishing I could change something about myself instead of appriciating and loving the Amir that I am!
As for the letting go thing, I know... I told God that I was going to meet her next week because I am ready and so I asked if He could make it happen as well as my laptop. I put the feeling out there, I immerged mysences, and brought my vibrations as high as I could and I let go! I will be doing this everyday next week. Yes I will meet her next week. Yes, I can feel it.

[Angelica]

Yes! :) I'm exciting!!

[Jason]

"financially stable. Am I fanancially stable? Let's see..." Etc.

I once attracted a knock-out, gorgeous girlfriend. At the time I had no car, no job, and no home. (Eventually I got those things.) But I had nothing! she loved me anyway. My belief was just so strong I guess. She wasn't my perfect dream girl (I thought she was at the time) but I'm sure your perfect dream girl will love you where you are at in life or where you will be when you meet her. But you having those things and you believing it helps attract your dream girl, then cool. Every bit of belief helps! I wouldn't stress too much. (Or at all!) Of course it's good to practice good hygiene and stuff though.

[Amir]

Thank you, Jason.