Help! realationship status on my profile

[Anniina]

I don't want to create singleness so how do I get the "single" relationship status off. And I don't want it to be "complicated" so can't choose that one eather. Should I just but "in a relationship" even if it is in the future???

[Rajesh Khandelwal]

Yup logic is required when you try to evaluate about any thing whether its in regards to relationship too.

Desire is also like a dream and at times dream should be taken as a aim.
The difference between Dream and Aim is:

A dream requires a effortless sleep
and
Aim requires a sleepless effort.

Thanks to respect my thoughts but it seems you don't believe in it. Right?
No hard feelings please. Its just we are discussing.
Rajesh

[Lena]

Ah that I agree with yes, about dream and Aim, that is a very good example of it too.

No I do not agree with somethings you are saying, but no hard feelings at all. It's always good to learn other peoples perspectives :)
Lena.

[Rajesh Khandelwal]

Hi Anniina,
Thanks for your reply. Its good to know about you and remember to take careful and wise steps in life. When going for any thing think twice as what will be its implications.
I do not know whether you will believe or not but yes i am having a healthy relationship with my wify and hope it remains the same ever after.
Little problems do crop up which is with every one. Its like you have 2 utensils in kitchen then its going to bang some day .
The rest life is good am am happy.
Rajesh

[Rajesh Khandelwal]

Hi Lena,
Be frank tell me where am i wrong or where you do not agree, so that i get to learn something from you please.
I believe in learning when ever i get a chance because life is just like a CIGARETTE.

Its already burning and will get finished.

So learn whenever get a chance.
Rajesh

[Vitalia]

Hi Annina,
I would look at it in the now - if the partner of your dreams is on his way to your life but hasn't got to it yet, I would put myself as single. This singleness is by no means a negative status - it's time with yourself ! I would probably try to focus on myself and let go of that feeling of waiting for the one...which can be like watching the pot that never boils! Also, by declaring yourself single you're telling the universe that you are ready for this angel of a partner to manifest so wherever he is now he can start his journey towards the magical encounter with you...
Love
x

[Rajesh Khandelwal]

Hi,
That was a very good reply. I liked it.
Rajesh

[HappierThanGod]

Anniina,

If you are single, that is your reality, you are single. That is your choice. But, if you are interested with a relationship, you have to declare that to the universe that you are ready for a relationship. However, you have to go back to basics, is that what you really, really want? If yes, you have to make a checklist of what you are looking for in a person. I do not know if you have identified this already because, it seems you can't gauge if this man in your life now fits your checklist. Many do not find the man that fits the bill since they have not identified what they want from a man.

If you are declaring you are looking for a casual relationship because you are saying you do not need a boyfriend but you just want to be in any kind of relationship, that is what is going to come to you...a casual relationship. Remember the genie which states, "You're wish is my command."

Bottom line, what do you want? There is no room for mix messages. You are confusing your genie.

l.

[Anniina]

But isn't stating "the reality" gonna give just that what you have now? I am seeing someone and I really think he is for me. The reason why I din't know before if he was for me is because I didn't know him that well yet. I don't want just any relationship I want to have a real and healthy long-term relationship. And by saying I don't need a boyfriend I meant that I am a whole individual by myself. I don't need someone to show me how great I am, I have already realized I'm great. Nor do I need someone to show me anything else. But I do want to have someone who loves me and who I love and someone to spend time with and who with whom I can share everything.

[HappierThanGod]

If people would ask you if you are single, "you say you are." If you are committed to this person, then you say, "you are in a relationship." These are the kinda stuff you put in your Facebook. For your personal purposes while you are declaring your intention/affirmation, you say, "I am in a real and healthy long-term relationship." You declare "I am a complete individual and I am great." If this individual or anybody else recognizes that you are great, don't ignore. You are just being appreciated and LOA is reaffirming you. That is just awesome...accept it. Just like if you say you are beautiful, people would say it to you,too. Accept it. Say, "thank you."

Focus on " I have a boyfriend". If you say "I don't need a boyfriend", you are giving energy to it, too. Well, and of course, add the imagination, too. Live as if the person is already there - you are loved, he is spending time with you and you share everything. Remember the part of "The Secret" wherein the guy is driving as if he has the car already.

[Anniina]

Thanks for your thoughts. You are right. And I do accept compliments and I do say thank you :) I did that even before I new I was great lol. I think I sometimes think too complicated :). You have so many good points there I agree with you.

I was maybe giving too much thought to the Oprah episode where they said that if you want and need something too much too despirately you won't get it. But I'm past the despirate phase whitch is a good thing. But I see your point :) Thanks again.

[HappierThanGod]

Yes, that episode is just like saying you are releasing your order for a boyfriend. It is like ordering in a restaurant. You do not keep on bugging the waiter saying "is my order, ready?". You do not bother the waiter because you know you have place the order (LOA), and you believe it is on its way.

Stay happy!

l.

[Sabine]

Hm, I was just wondering about that. I don't have any option checked, probably because it was possible to leave it blank in the old profile templates. Why don't you ask one of our three founding ladies about it? :-)
I wouldn't want to check single either because I don't feel single and because I don't consider that information relevant.