How to keep positive when partner/spouce not positive?

[Christine]

I'm am trying really hard to stay positive and use the Law of Attraction, and for the most part I am. I am getting some manifestations of money, but I know that I'm still working at getting it right. Things take time to learn and start working. My problem is, in the meantime, my boyfriend, who is extremely supportive of everything I do, is having a hard time being positive. Our money situation is like a lot of people's, we're living paycheck to paycheck. The few manifestations are quickly gobbled up by past due bills and neccessities. We're trying to get a business started, and many other small projects to bring in money, but it's not going very quickly.

My question is, how do I stay positive, when the one I love so dearly is upset and worried? I know things will work out, I know this! But I hate seeing him so sad at times. He's skeptical of the Law of Attraction, though he keeps it mostly to him self. Encourages me to explore my beliefs and passions, but it's not really helping him. How have any of you dealt with this?

Thanks for any insights and suggestions.

[Zara]

This so strange but I'm in a similar situation. I thought about asking people on here about it but didn't. My partner is so supportive and positive but since I've been being positive I've noticed negative things he says like we'll never afford that and stuff like that. The other day he was feeling down about money and I usually do but not anymore. I have total faith that things will work out and I truely believe we will be rich beyond our wildest dreams but the thing is at the moment my partner is the only one bringing in the income so if he does'nt believe it then where does that leave us. All I can do is talk to him about the LoA but he says he doesn't want to hear about it when he is feeling like this which really thats the best time to listen. Anyway hopefully people will give some good advice and we'll both manifest all our desires:)

[Angela "Vibe"]

I too am in this bind with my husband.He has seen the movie "The Secret" and agrees with it..He just doesn't seem to apply it daily and I frequently hear negative things..Staying positive is getting to him though..When I talk to him about things I am learning he always has a negative come-back..I shall be patient and support him no matter what..Still having a hard time staying in a positive vibe 100% of the day..He's coming around though..Peace and Love..

[Fred Morton]

When you focus on the fact that your partner is not in alignment with your dream, this takes you out of alignment with you. It matters not if your partner believes it or not. The best teaching tool for your partner is to lead by example and maintain your well-being.
Make your alignment the most important thing you do. Hold to your vision.
Fred

[Isobel]

People can only hear what's within their vibrational range, so when someone is feeling down and negative, the very LAST thing they can relate to is a huge dose of positivity! :D

The work is taking care of your own vibrational output and directing your thoughts in the direction of what you want, whatever is going on around you. You do that by not observing "what is" if it doesn't bring you joy, and by focusing on anything at all that makes you feel good. This will move you away from your partner vibrationally, and it's then his choice whether to follow your lead or not. Your job is to keep your vibe up, whatever anyone else is saying, doing or being. You're not responsible for their vibration any more than they are responsible for yours. Don't use anyone as an excuse for disconnecting yourself from who you really are.

It may help if you let go of the idea that anyone or anything is your sole source of abundance. The Universe can bring you whatever you want in multiple ways we can't even imagine. The "how" is not your concern; when it's time for you to act, you'll know. In fact, you won't be able to NOT act! :)

Isobel

[Christine]

Wow! I'm so glad I started this thread :) Thank you Fred & Isobel for your suggestions. You're both so right.

I had decided to listen to a course that I got from Joe Vitale about the missing secret. And "coincidentally", it talks about this sort of thing. It says that everyone, and everything that comes into our life is our creation. Then he gives a mantra to help "clean" what we don't want out of our lives.

"I Love You"
"I'm sorry"
"Please Forgive Me"
"Thank You"

You say these four phrases over and over. It creates positive self talk to counter act any negative self talk that has created what ever it is that you don't want in your life. Because what he says, is that there is nothing in our lives that is outside of ourselves, and to change what we don't like, even within another person, is to take 100% responsibility, and ask the Devine to change it from within ourselves. This technique is called "Ho'o ponopono". It's Hawaiian for Cause Perfection.

I hope I explained it well enough. It's been working for me in the last hour or so, and I've seen a shift in Steve's mood... but more importantly, I've felt the positive energy surrounding me like a big hug!

[Isobel]

It's really the Law of Attraction under another name. You can't create in someone else's experience but you can change your experience of them by changing your vibration. IOW, you always get what you are vibrationally aligned with, so change yourself and you change what you get.

Anything that makes you feel good - IS good! :)

[Elaine]

Great post. You explained it beautifully.

I've heard it before but really needed this today. I am going to write down the mantra on a note card and keep it with me until all this passes.

Thank you.

[Elaine]

I have been in this situation, although at this point I am not actually with the man anymore. He liked the movie The Secret but didn't, in my opinion grasp the aspect of being !00% responsible.

To make a long story short I found that I was trying to change him to get him on the spiritual path that I was on and he really didn't want to go. He pretended when he saw that he was losing me but the truth always became apparent.

I still care for him and still suffer somewhat about the loss- that is one of the things I am working on in this 100 Day Challenge. I know I have come a long way since I started this journey. We used to have an explosive relationship, maybe abusive is a more accurate term but I knew from everything that I had read and studied that I was not actually a victim - instead he was my reflection. Or as Abraham would explain that he and his actions were a match to my vibrations.

That awareness was incredibly humbling. I think I've gone somewhat off-topic but that you for providing me with an opportunity to express myself.

Back to you, it sounds like you are on the right path.

[Mascha]

I can relate a lot to your story and agree with every word you say.. Well done for handling the situation this way, Elaine
Becoming truly truly aware of my (deepest) vibrations and receiving signs that the reality gave me, made me realize the pattern I'm in.. Sometimes it's just enough right?
The CCOR provides so many tools to break free, it's amazing!

All the best to you,
Mascha

[Jenna]

I have been here - let me tell 'ya. My husband stresses so much about money - it is always about not having enough, running out, etc. I used to struggle with how to manifest with his negative energy being put towards finances but then I started not worrying about it. I affirmed that we lived in abundance and our bills were always paid. As soon as I let go of his negativity - it went away. It has been a few months and he is sleeping through the night without worrying about gas prices and we finally have money left after all the bills are paid! Positivity is SO much more powerful than negativity so it works out :)

[Christine]

That's exactly what I'm trying to do. One thing that I find that I'm doing, which I really shouldn't, is taking too much responsibility for my families happiness. Which then, maybe gives me a much better excuse for why I'm not happy, since I can't make other people happy. But, this site, and a few others, as well as some newsletters and emails and books, (there's really a ton of great stuff out there), I'm able to get rid of the negative thoughts a lot easier than I used to.

[Aleta]

I was just about to vlog and ask everybody what they would do or have done if their kids (in my case, one of my kids, my15 year old boy) is getting more negative while I'm getting more positive....then I "just happened" to find this. The old CCOR syncronicity locomotive is pulling into the station again! For me it's REALLY hard to watch my kids suffer and there are times when you have to jump in as a parent, but I'm REALLY working at getting very,very clear about the hidden corners of my thinking/feeling. I get that by keeping myself aligned with my highest happy/solid good I am serving him. I get that it raises the collective family energy. I get that it's not my job to rescue him. I get that I'm keeping my energy clear and positive for me. I get that my husband is REALLY getting it. That part is miracle cool, 'cause he just got very unfairly laid off and after some ups and downs we are both getting what a true opportunity this is....he was climbing a tree for fun yesterday....he hasn't climbed a tree in years!
I do know that my kid is responsible for his own thoughts and life. Like I said, I know keeping myself up is key....I also get that I'm shedding some false beliefs about what a "good" mommy would do.....but how do you "stay the course"? I'm feeling sadness creeping in. I want my kids to live their highest good and strength. I'm sad and a little angry that all the work I've done on myself isn't translating to my oldest boy. For me it's harder to let go and let my son work it out than it is to let my husband work his stuff out.....I mean one is my peer and the other a life I brought into the world. I just had a lot of revelation brought on by hormones. It was like emotional/spiritual septic cleanser! I really appreciated my hormones lighting up the hidden dark corners of thought, so I could clean them up, but that's my thought process and I can do it. My 15 year old has even said that he's angry at me for being too much of an optomist. How do you hold the space for your kids highest good while not falling into feeling his pain, taking responsibility for it, rescuing or just sinking down with him?